Dear Sistah: Are you too Busy?

How many times have we been so overwhelmed, consumed, and busy to sit down?

Sistah, last weekend, I was in Indiana – celebrating my Aunt’s 80th Birthday (praise God for life) and someone said to me, “girl, sit down you’re just too busy.” (And she pinched my cheeks like a dang baby, but that’s not why I’m writing – inserts eye rolls here) In the moment, I didn’t take into consideration that statement that was made, but on my car ride home when I had time to reflect I remembered (perhaps the Holy Spirt brought back to my memory) my busyness.

So, as I drove I said to myself (in my Brown voice: my self said huh?!) am I truly busy? Have I been moving so much? And Sistah, yes I have! I was moving so much and too much that I was missing out on precious moments in my own life. So, you say, what makes or causes busyness? How about the idea, that we are the only ones who can get the job done. How about the spirit of perfectionist? Oh and please don’t forget the I’m out here making a Dream for myself. I’m achieving goals. Now Sistah, don’t get me wrong – I’m not trying to stop no hustle or grind, but I am looking to encourage you to take it one step at a time and let God lead you – let God take the wheel.

Guess what, Sistah, so many times I’ve heard folks says, “anything you need to know is in the Bible”…so, I picked my brain about any scripture that speaks upon busyness annnnnddddd I found the story of when Jesus went to visit with Martha and Mary.

Here it goes…(this is told from my point of view – it’s what I like to call Kristina-ology. Yes, I made that all the way up! Now don’t steal it.

Jesus was entering a village on His way to Jerusalem. While in this village, Martha, greeted Him and welcomed Him to her home. Her sister name was Mary and at the home as well. When Jesus arrived to their home, Mary sat at his feet (I believe this was because Mary recognized Jesus) and listened to Him teach. Yet Martha the one who invited Jesus was so distracted and busy – trying to perfect the atmosphere, the food, and whatever else. Since Martha was sooooo B U S Y and what seem like Mary wasn’t helping she complained to Jesus, saying, “Lord, doesn’t it seem unfair to you that my sister just sits here while I do all the work? Tell her to come and help me.” (Luke 10:38-40 NLT) So, Jesus replied, “My dear Martha, you are worried and upset over all these details! There is only one thing worth being concerned about. Matt has discovered it, and it will not be taken away from her.” (Luke 10:41-42 NLT)

Sistah, you ask, what am I really trying to say? Thanks for asking…all I’m saying is that we are like Martha so busy focused on the perfection and details of a life, of events, and of schedules that don’t belong anything to us. Jesus wasn’t eager to eat with Mary and Martha (now I’m quite sure he was hungry – seeing as He was on his way to Jerusalem) but his initial intention is soul saving! Mary set aside her busyness for the pure moment to enjoy Jesus while He was yet amongst her. Martha on the hand missed it all. She missed the precious moment of the here because she was too worried and focused on the what’s to come whether it had been dinner or anything.

So, Sistah, I ask…are you too busy? The Bible teaches in Psalm 46:10a, to be still and know that I am God” how will we ever know that He is God, if we are never still? How can we ever exalt the Lord and reflect of His Righteousness if we are always too busy. Imagine if Jesus came to earth and the entire time He was physically here He was too busy. Too busy, to heal the sick, too busy to raise the dead, too busy to feed the hungry, too busy to gather disciples, too busy to give sight to the blind, or too busy to cast out demons.

All I’m saying Sistah, is remove some of the junk from our calendars and make time to sit in the moment. Being in the present and sitting in the moment is time with God. It’s in the moment that we clearly hear a WORD from God. It’s in the moment that we find restoration (God can reveal…in the moment). Long lived the days of being #bookedandbusy and now live the days of being #momentliving

Sistah, tomorrow is not promised to us! So, we must enjoy today and the moments that it may bring!


Dear Sistah: Where is your Focus?

Many times we have lost sight of the prize. The enemy comes to deter our focus. He brings about shiny objects and we quickly (without thought) loss our focus.

Sistah, I want you to know that we must remain focused! We have to continuously keep our eye on the prize. What is the prize? Glad you asked, it’s eternal life. Nothing that we gain on earth is eternal. Yet it’s temporary. The Bible teaches in Matthew 6:33, “But see the first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” KJV

Sistah, that basically means that when we continue to keep our focus on God all the other things will be added unto us. Just because we surrender our all to God doesn’t mean that He takes advantage and doesn’t reward us for being obedient. No, that’s when He blesses us all the more.

Sistah, if you’ve lost your way and cannot find your focus – reach out to God! He wants to restore you, but you have to want the restoration. Once you’re restored, keep the focus – the faith! Seek ye first the kingdom of God (not the worldly gains) and everything else will be added to you according to His Will!


Dear Sistah: Don’t Sleep on the Ant

Dear Sistah,

Are you anything like me? Are you terrified completely of any insect that craws, is small in stature, and can move quicker than you? YES! I am absolutely TERRIFIED, like call my own mother from downstairs in her own home to mine to “do away with” a spider! Yes – it is horrible, but no judging, RIGHT?

Well, when I read Proverbs 6:6 I quickly squirmed in my skin because I can only imagine seeing the ants storing up their food for the winter season. How devoted and dedicated they are. Yet, to me – the big scary cat, I am terrified of running into them. Yet, this is a very powerful verse (found directly in the book of Wisdom, itself).

Proverbs 6:6 NLT reads, “Take a lesson from the ants, you lazybones. Learn from their ways and become wise!”

Basically the author of this verse is encouraging us to not be so terrified of the ant and their process, but to observe their process. During the warm season, the ant(s) gather their harvest and they store it up for the cold – winter season. What is to say, that we Believers do not use our time WISELY? I am in a class through our convention and we are talking about witnessing. One phrase my instructor used – this is not the exact quote, but he did say, that we should ALWAYS take advantage of the opportunity. Which means we have to be active and working during the warm season – JUST LIKE THE ANT!

The ant refuses to be caught with the work undone, so they work when the opportunity is RIGHT. So should we sistah! We must continuously work while the iron is hot…I heard that somewhere – is it ‘strike while the iron is hot’? Anywho we must not become lazy, but must always be about our Father’s business – spreading the GOOD NEWS!

So, the next time you’re taking a stroll down the walkway and you see an ant, dont be terrified (Kristina), but observe their tactic and follow in line.

My sistah, get to work and dont sleep on the ant approach, if we (the Believers) don’t get busy, God has no one else to do the work. There is too much space in heaven to be without our love ones, friends, associates, and acquaintances.

Blessings & Love!


Dear Sistah: Embrace your Heartache & Endure the Process

Dear Sistah.

Have you ever experienced love (unconditional love)?! Or what you saw as unconditional love? Maybe it was from a man, a woman, mother, father, child, or close family member of friend. Those folks either showered you with love, affection, and gave you a sense of peace. Yet, you felt something was missing?

Or Sistah, maybe it was that guy who had you “so in love”, head over hills, in bliss, lighting up every time he reached out…

Or was it a love connection where you gave more than you received and it left you busted and disgusted?

Well, I’m here to tell you that heartache was just that! It was a process, that we have all had to endure! So, my Sistah pick up your head, wipe those tears, and rejoice in the Lord for the process.

As I write, I’m cannot help but to remember the story of Jacob and Leah. (You can catch more of this story in Genesis 29) Some theologians refer to Leah’s name to mean either: “Weary or mistress”. Now, we can agree to disagree that one could me more accurate than the other – that neither here nor there. However, we do know that Leah was not who Jacob worked so hard to earn hand in marriage, but she was his wife. Like any of us, Leah sought love from her husband. Love that (to no fault of Jacob) he was not willing or seeking to give to her. But wait…God, saw that Leah was so unloved by Jacob, that He opened her womb! She conceived.

I like to say – Leah strategically Naming one of her delightful children Judah, which I’m sure we can all agree the meaning behind his name exemplifies nothing but PRAISE!Now, I don’t know if she was silly & some of might say she was just that, but I do know that we have ALL been there! May not have the children to show for it, but he internal scars that do! That’s not the story, that’s only part of what I want you ladies to see…

Note: that through the unloved condition and state that Leah was in, God continuously had MERCY on her (her womb)! She bore out of it, sons who would play a strong part in the lineage of Jesus. So, Sistah, what am I saying? Endure the process! Do not focus and get lost in the situation at hand, but endure the process and trust that God is watching out for you! In God’s watching out it shows that He is that unconditional love that you seek, because He’s there when He’s needed (even though we forget it)!

The process is a part of the PRAISE! If there’s no process we will never had any PRAISE! LET THE PRAISE BEGIN!


Dear Sistah: Embrace your BLACKGIRLMAGIC

The Bible teaches us that we are fearfully and wonderfully made. Psalm 139:14a

However it is hard for us as women, young and seasoned to embrace our true black girl magic. Today, I sat around a few seasoned folks at the dinner table. I heard true stories of the early to the mid 1900’s…some of the stories were so horsy I was sucked to my stomach, but nevertheless they were TRUE! However as my fair uncle rapped up his stories he stated the following words, “WE ARE SOME STRONG PEOPLE”! My sistah, I felt every word as he stated them! Those words are very true, to only for the men, but even the more for us women.

All of our black girl magic is owed to our created, God. God created us in this manner so we must learn to embrace it. We do not have to “keep up with the ‘Jones’s'” yet we can boldly stand in who we are and we’re created to be. Each and every one of us has a purpose and we have to execute it! It doesn’t mean that we are less than or boring, but on the road to being BLESSED by the BEST! As we learn to embrace our black girl magic we put into full effect, proverbs 31:30 which indicates, “charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised”.

So, sistah, you’re beautiful, you’re educated, your special, and you’re somebody! Walk straight in it and let no one tell you differently. Be you always! Not be ashamed because you’re not always understood, be all that God has called you to be and keep it moving.

Dear Sistah: The Fight is REAL

Growing up, I knew people who felt and lived a life that if one fought they all fought. It was a way of showing loyalty to your family and friends.

In Christ, as I grow, I realized that no matter how many people were a part of the “team” you cannot handle the fight against the enemy alone. That’s exactly what we go through on a daily as believing women of God. Each day that we wake up. The enemy tries again to attack us. He shoots he shots from all directions. You walk into work and your colleagues do or say something off the all, or you wake up and head to the kitchen for breakfast and have to deal with family – a husband or child(ren) who woke up with the enemy attached all to them. Oh and do let us forget those friends, associates, and EVEN strangers who come for you and NEVER sent for them!

How do we fight? Automatically we jump to our own rescue. We never consider the partnership that we need to have with God. All the long we have no power! Each time we fight what seems and is the same fight over and over again, because we forget to include the one and only person, who has the most power, God! So, our fight is real – it’s a daily whirlwind. The enemy comes to kill, steal and destroy. John 10:10

My Sistah, this fight is REAL! We must properly prepare self for battle. It’s time it for being unprepared when it comes to fighting the enemy – who wants nothing more for us then DEATH!

So, how must we prepare? Ephesians 6:10-18 indicates there’s a few items we must girdle ourselves with. We must put on the full armour of God, Ephesians 6:11a. With the full armour of God we are able to stand up against the enemy and his many attacks, we are able to handle the fight and not have to include the worldly “team”.

Oh my Sistah always remember we do not literally fight against flesh and blood – that’s the natural man, but we fight against principalities(demonic spirits) the attacks of the enemy. Ephesians 6:12

From here on our – FIGHT, but be prepared!

1. Hold up your garments with the belt of truth, tuck it around your waist

2. Cover your chest, with the breast plate of righteousness

3. No high heels needed, but with a nice gym shoe ready your feet with PEACE that comes from the Good News, which is the Gospel

4. Don’t forget to protect that pretty little face of yours by upholding the shield of faith this way any thing that s thrown your way will not damage your money maker 🙂 – I had to throw that one in there!

5. Don’t go into battle thinking you know it all slide on your helmet of salvation

6. Finally, since you have to fight (with God involved) never leave the house without your sword of the Spirit

Sistah, once as we prepare we must never forget to leave the house with the full armour of God. It helps us reaper self for anything 5rough the day that the enemy shoots our way!

Be blessed!

Dear Sister: Why Do You Fear?

Why do you fear? Fear is a trick of the enemy and all in the mind. Fear keeps us away from God. Fear stops progress, so my sistah- why do we fear?

God is so real and wants to aid in our journey, but we must let Him in. Fear is a hindrance and it stop the relationship with have with God. It limits who we are created to become and the enemy wins each time.

Are you tired yet sistah, letting the enemy just beat up all on you? Then overcome those fears! Seek he first the kingdom of God (Matthew 6:33) and all these things will be added. These things = promotions, financial wealth, healthy relationship and family relationship, and much more. So, overcome that fear – seek God annnnddddd it A L L will be added to you!

Love & Blessings